NOBODY TOLD ME I COULD DO THIS, BUT IM DOING IT ANYWAY
about dreams, life purpose & the process
In the age of social media, all we see are the milestones—the big wins, the fame, the shiny “highlight reel” that makes it look like success happens with a snap of the fingers or maybe just by sitting and manifesting.
But, we need real stories because climbing to the top of the mountain doesn’t happen overnight; it takes time, work, and a lot of trial and error. Dreams are made of commitment, discipline, and trust, not just vision boards, and more importantly, they are made of the courage to follow one’s unique call.
It takes time, courage, and patience to build goals, to bring our dreams to reality, and create our visions. We’ve gotten used to the online proof of overnight success that today, most people suffer from anxiety, depression, and burnout because things don’t go as fast as they were led to believe. They end up unhealthy, sick, and giving up on their dreams.
The first step to making our dreams come true is to believe it’s possible—yes, to be delusional—even when everyone around seems to tell you otherwise. But the secret sauce to making the dream come true is the process, the journey we have to walk on even when we don’t see results.
It’s been a year since I decided to get honest with myself and face the painful truth about pursuing a dream that wasn’t mine. Since my spiritual awakening, I convinced myself that my call was to teach and share my wisdom and spiritual lessons as a coach. I struggled for years to build a coaching business, trying to prove to myself and the world that I could be one of those six-figure coaches traveling the world, a pioneer of the new world. I struggled because, even though I have the understanding and spiritual wisdom from my healing journey and lessons, being a coach has never felt true to me. I certainly don’t fit the box of a spiritual coach; it’s not my call.
Becoming a mother brought the process of death and rebirth (I’ve shared about this multiple times in other blogs). My old identity was questioned and burned to the ground, putting me in the middle of a very uncomfortable process of digging in the dirt, cleaning my inner house, and bringing in new furniture that aligns with who I am.
I realized that my unique call, my dream, was to share my experiences, knowledge, and spiritual gifts in my own way. It takes bravery to find and follow our path, just as it takes resilience to keep it alive even when, at first, we often feel like we’re talking to walls.
My journey led me to question what I truly wanted from my heart, without the influence of social media or others around me. I had to dig deep, get to know myself better, and experiment before I could even figure out what this dream looked like. This is part of the process, part of the journey of building dreams. Birthing dreams isn’t just about having the idea or wanting fame and money; it’s about recognizing what matters most to you, what makes your heart sing, and what the call of your soul truly is.
For me, it was understanding that I needed to combine my spiritual call with my creative side. There’s a reason why I studied film and visual arts; I’ve always been a multifaceted artist. It was time to figure out how to blend these passions so I would align with my who I am.
Once I got crystal clear about my dream and my goals, the second stage of the journey began. I entered a period of trial and error, experimenting to pursue and create things without even knowing exactly what I was doing, all I had clear was the vision I had.
This was me at the beginning of this year—creating, doing, posting, and trying different things to understand how this dream would take shape.
It took me around six months to gain some clarity, and then the Spiritual Lounge was born, or at least the idea of it. After all that time, I was able to recognize that what I care the most was to bring spirituality down to earth. I wanted to do it by being myself, by creating content that reflected how I live, applying spiritual concepts in my everyday life.
The third stage of my process is where I’m currently at: being consistent, committed, and disciplined with my vision no matter what. I don’t force things; I’ve learned to flow with my own cycles and focus on improving my skills along the way. Am I where I want to be? Not yet—maybe not even close—but I’m having fun and feeling fulfilled.
That’s for sure!
Every time I create something, I genuinely love it and feel joy—not because of the results, but because I’ve decided to focus on the process. This isn’t just a cliché; as I mentioned, it’s been through this process, which started even before I knew what I wanted to do, that I’ve rediscovered myself. I’ve come to understand my purpose and grounded myself in the truth that, at the end of the day, what matters most isn’t reaching the top of the mountain but collecting the lessons along the way—lessons I may someday share with others on similar paths.
Of course, we’ll celebrate the wins! I promise to share with you every time I achieve one because life is also about pleasure as long as we keep our values and peace of mind.
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Your honesty about the journey, staying true to yourself, and focusing on the process instead of just the end goal truly resonates with me. I love your writing!
Jen I resonate with so much of this and found such knowing and relief in your words. I have been devoted to enjoying, or at least, learning and growing, with the process for a little while now, and putting goals second to the richness of the process, in some ways I wish I’d done this sooner, in other ways I know it’s perfect time. Thank you for sharing your insights ✨